Gay Marriage Should Be Legalized
I have a firm belief that every
human being has the right to be treated equally and that every person has a
right to be happy. In the present world, the idea of two men or two women
falling in love, getting married and starting a family is still strange,
sometimes even shocking to many people. However, in this day and age, I
question whether it is right to deny two human beings access to equal rights
and a chance at a happy life. In this essay, I will go over a few reasons why I
believe that gay marriage should be legalized.
One of the main reasons that gay
marriage is banned is the religious belief that homosexuals are “sinners”. This
has influenced the court rulings of many countries, even ones that claim to be
secular. The fact is, at least in
secular countries, that religion and law are two separate entities altogether.I
understand the fact that many people have been taught to believe certain things
all their life and do not question them and that religion can form the fundamentals
of morality for some people.However, I firmly believe that the modern ideals of
basic human rights and equality should be prioritized over the beliefs and
guidelines set by ancient people in times long gone. In secular societies, religion
and law are two separate entities and should remain that way.The religious beliefs
of some people should not be imposed on others.
At this point, it is worth
mentioning that not all religions are against homosexuality. One of the world’s
largest religions, Hinduism, is actually not opposed to homosexuality. Many Hindu
texts, such as the Vedas, the Kamasutra and the Smriti texts have directly or
indirectly implied that it is not a sin to love someone of the same gender and
regularly speak of the ‘third gender’, a category that includes all LGBTQ
people. Many modern Hinduscholars, such as Sri Ravi Shankar, have concluded
that since the soul has no gender, two members of any gender might love each
other. The concept of duality, which means there is a male and female within
each person, has also been cited as supportive of gay relationships.Overall, Hinduism’s
ideas of the soul and of duality suggest that it is a homosexual-tolerant religion,
although ideasvary from sect to sect. It is ironic that in India we have
adopted Victorian England’s narrow views on the matter instead of being true to
our own cultural beliefs.
For those opponents who say
homosexuality is a “modern” concept, I have to point to the fact that same-sex
relationships havelong been accepted as a norm. An interesting fact is that in
ancient Rome, the area in which Christianity first grew and flourished, there
was simply no concept of homosexuality at all.
A man could have a relationship with another man and not be labeled as
“homosexual” and “bisexual’. And it doesn’t stop there. Polynesian, African,
Japanese, ancient Mesopotamean, Native American and Greek civilizations all accepted
homosexuality and in many instances it was clearly celebrated. Most of these
cultures only changed their morality under the influence of European colonial
powers. If ancient societies could be open minded enough to accept the various
different sexualities that human beings exhibit, why can’t we?
Another counter argument used
very commonly against homosexuality is reproduction. Since it requires a male
and a female member of a species to reproduce, love or attraction between two
members of the same gender is considered wrong. For example, a California Supreme
Court ruling in 1856 stated that “The first purpose of matrimony, by the laws
of nature, is procreation.”I find this argument to be flawed, as in today’s
world, with depletion of natural resources and overpopulation, what does it
mean to say that the sole purpose of marriage is to have children? In any case,
the number of couples who either cannot have children or don’t want to, means
that marriage could not possibly be only about procreation. If so,these unions
would be meaningless.
A
very commonly used argument against homosexuals is that, since homosexuality is
not natural, homosexuals are immoral. An interesting piece of information that
not many people know is that homosexual behaviorhas been observed in a huge
number of animal species in the wild such as, to name a few, lions, dogs, apes,
monkeys, sheep, hyenas, dolphins, giraffes,birds (especially penguins), and
dragonflies. In zoos, 20% of penguin couples are homosexualand remain with
their mates for their entire lives. Almost
50% of orange fronted parakeet matings are homosexual, and 90% of sexual
activity of wild giraffes during mating season occurs between males. This
indicates that homosexuality is in fact a natural occurrence. In any case, even
if one does consider homosexuality to be an unnatural occurrence, one must
question the worth of outlawing a completely harmless act simply on the grounds
that it is “unnatural”. Flying in a
plane, using a phone, operating on another human’s heart, taking medication and
using in-vitro fertilization are all practices that could never occur in
nature, but humans continue to do these.
Humanity progresses; it has never been bound by the laws of what is
“natural” and what is not. And neither should the LGBTQ population.
I
would also like to mention that many people who oppose gay marriage on the
grounds that homosexuality is immoral do so presuming that homosexuality is
nothing more than lust. This is a flawed view as it reduces a relationship to
being only about sex. A homosexual relationship is far more than that. Like any
straight relationships, homosexual relationships are about mutual love, trust,
security in hard times, companionship in old age all leading to the general
happiness of both partners. Why would we deny anyone these basic human needs?
Many
opponents to gay marriage claim that legalizing it would lead to “social
instability”. Some claim that legalizing
one kind of non-traditional marriage would then allow other kinds of
non-traditional relationships the right to marry, such as polygamous, bestial or
incestuous relationships. James Dobson, a conservative preacher in the USA, predicted
in 2005 that gay marriage would lead to “group marriage”, “marriage between
daddies and their little girls” and “marriagebetween a man and his donkey”. However, gay marriage is simply about two
consenting adult members of the same sex getting married, which is a similar
concept to heterosexual marriage, in which two consenting adult members of opposite
sexes are married. It is in no way
similar to bestiality, which involves a human and an animal, or polygamy which
involves more than two human beings. Any assumptions that legalizing gay
marriage would lead society down a ‘slippery slope’ stem from a fear psychosis around
homosexuals. One simply needs to look at all the countries in which gay
marriage is legal: Canada, France, the Netherlands,
Spain, South Africa, none of which have shown a rampant increase in such
immoral behavior as many conservatives claim.
Other
people claim that gay marriage would somehow “weaken the institution of
marriage”, leading to increased divorce rates and illegitimate births. Former
US senator and Republican Party candidate Rick Santorum said that “Legalization
of gay marriage would further undermine an institution that is essential to the
well-being of children and our society. Do we need to confuse future
generations of Americans even more about the role and importance of an
institution that is so critical to the stability of our country?” This point is
probably the most baseless claim ever made against homosexuals. In what way would allowing marriage between two
members of the same sex leads to other completely unrelated couples getting
divorced, or having children before marriage?
These claims are usually made by people defending the argument that
“marriage is only for procreation.” The majority of arguments against
homosexuality stem from primitive and narrow-minded thoughts and ideas that
have little or no basis in fact.
Finally, the most important
reason to legalize gay marriage is to assimilate the LGBTQ population into
society and protect their rights. Gay people are regularly discriminated
against at school, workplace or society. While it may seem that this has very
little to do with whether or not gay marriage is legalized, the fact is that,
by denying certain people rights, the law effectively creates ‘second-class
citizens’. This may send the signal to many people that homosexuals are not
protected by law, thereby encouraging their mistreatment. Hate crimes such as
the Orlando nightclub shooting earlier this year are far more common then we
expect – 14% of hate crimes reported annually to the FBI are homophobic. Around
42% of American LGBTQ people report living in an unwelcoming environment and
80% of LGBTQ youth report social isolation and discrimination.Members of the LGBTQ
community are three times more likely to experience depression, due to social
discrimination and homophobic sentiments in the population, says the Australian
Human Rights Commission. Worldwide, although awareness and tolerance have
increased over the years, there is still very little being done to protect the
rights of homosexuals, at least compared to the efforts being put in for
women’s rights, racism and other forms of discrimination. This is why it is so
important to encourage tolerance and sensitivity, a crucial step of which would
be the legalization of gay marriage. Inter-racial marriage was an impossibility
less than seventy-five years ago, but these laws have been abandoned because a
progressive society saw them as unjust and cruel. Legalizing gay marriage would
provide a chance for a normal happy life for many people while protecting their
rights as human beings and not affecting the heterosexual community in any way.
After researching, reviewing the
facts and contemplating about the issue, I have come to the firm conclusion
that there is absolutely no valid reason to ban gay marriage. Article 16 of the U.N.’s Universal
Declaration of Human Rights states – “Men
and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or sex, have
the right to marry and found a family.” This says nothing about whether or
not the two people are male or female. A loving and supportive relationship is
one of humanity’s basic needs. No one should have the right to deprive anyone
of that. I sincerely hope that this
article has broadened the reader’s mind and convinced them of my point.